Well, it's really no one's business but the people involved, yes? Whatever your opinion is, is ineffectual because each individual will make his/her own decision, so why even talk about it? I have never been concerned with other people's sex lives. Personally, I have tried both and I prefer the third kind, single sex.

I forgot to say that your two choices seem to ignore sex during marriage, but I guess no one is judgemental enough to comment on that, since people overly concerned with other people's sex lives also seem to have too many children and to expect others to make the same poor choice.

plus sex during marriage would be kind of awkward for the guests...

A personal decision based on feelings and personal beliefs.Considering the amount of people living together without marriage it would put somewhat of a strain upon the relationship to not be able to have sex?

Well...you've gottta try before you buy!

Well I think that sex is something normal in a relationship, like marriage is. But nowadays you don t often get married young so why would you have to wait for a pleasure like that ? Indeed sex is a pleasure and all the "laws" which could say No sex before marriage are for me old ideas to keep a woman in a kind of jail like if she was owned by a man. Don t know if I can really explain what I mean. But today I think that sex is in our lives and we don t have to forbid ourselves just because old ideas say so. But after I totally understand that some people, men or women, think the reverse, it all depends on society, country, religion, education etc...
What is important is to be careful and to have sex when you love the person but that is an other point...

I think "right or wrong" sounds a little judgemental. For me it's down to personal choice. Those who want to wait needn't be pressured into it, and those of us who are happy to have sexual liasons/relationships/love etc before marriage should feel free - not everybody gets married after all. I do think personal choice is a lot healthier with enlightenment, however, and a choice made understanding both sides of the coin, for me, would be preferable though not necessarily "righter or wronger".

Darling, how cold you possibly throw a question like that in the arena. Positively cruel!
Well in my humble opinion sex is entertainment, pure sumptious pleasure and fabulous relief for tension and must not be treated in such a black and white manner.
But on the other hand I of the firm belief if a girl wanted to wait till marriage she should inspect the size and girth and also have a full MOT done befor binding to any marital contract. Say it's not fully functioning...what a disaster.

Always right...
how can you know everything about someone if you never made love with him?
It's a way to know better somebody, and in some case the only way that tell you the truth

kisses..

well if you must know, i have the answer. everyone has one. here's mine:
marriage is contrived. like faith in church. it's a desperate attempt to attain harmony in a guilt-saturated life. religion helps out and as a payback you can't even make love in church. that's blasphemous. i say bullshit. why is church so holy?
ok to the point. if the sex is good enough on its own as an issue, like a ten out of a ten it's gotta end up in marriage. but that rarely happens. and besides, as they say n the end of speed: relationships based on sex alone never last. proof: speed 2.
sex with your intended significant other is one thing. sex for kicks is not a good start for marriage plans. but that comes later. but if you are religious and have hold off until you marry, then hey if that's a vow on your part, have fun. it's all up to every individual. not just because god says so.

now i have a question: do these questions result in a subconscious effort on your behalf to find a life mate? becaue asking around seems like you're looking for similar people to hang with. and hey everybody's doing it why not you.

and thanks for the invitation. lets.

What about doing other things before marriage?